The heart and eyes must bleed a lot before self-complacency falls away. You might be ruling out the possibility to love again. Give more people a chance and find out if the things that matter are compatible. Do your values align? Are you heading in the same direction in life? Do your personalities fit? Let go of superficial check-box qualities and take a chance on people who may not immediately fit the bill.
How do you love again after being single for so long? Because after a while, you get comfortable with the idea of being single.
Singlehood means less messiness, less heartbreak, and less uncertainty. On the other hand, relationships also involve you opening yourself up to love again, connection, and intimacy. Nothing will help you grow as a person and grow spiritually as much as a relationship will.
A relationship may be outside your comfort zone but all learning, growth, and expansion happen in those places where we are most uncomfortable. And this is how you can learn to love again… What about you? Vishnu writes a personal growth and spirituality blog for people starting over in life at vishnusvirtues. What I will share with you is one of the deepest and most powerful poems ever written. Stressing about money, stressing about […].
I love Wayne Dyer! Tags: afraid to love break up divorce fear fear of being hurt feeling not good enough freedom heartbreak love love again loving making mistakes old stories pain perfectionism trust trust again. The truth is sometimes you have to get knocked down to learn how to stand back up. To open up to love again, you have to look at the lessons your heartbreak taught you about yourself; maybe it taught you to trust your intuition or to love yourself more, or maybe it taught you how to walk away or when to draw the line.
Learning from your past mistakes is the only way you can lead yourself to find love you deserve rather than crumbs of love. Understand that closing your heart off is not going to make you any happier. The grass is not always greener on the safe side. Be honest with yourself. If you can be honest with yourself about what exactly went wrong and pin down how you contributed to it, you are more likely to avoid these mistakes in the future.
Accept that love will always be risky. Opening up to someone or falling in love with someone will always be risky and the outcome will never be guaranteed, but as with everything in life, some things are totally worth the risk, sometimes taking the risk is the only way you can actually feel alive. Take your time.
Take your time to heal. Take your time to get to know someone new. Take your time to listen to your heart and pay close attention to your feelings. Take your time to open up to love again so you can make sure you are ready for the right kind of love when it knocks on your door.
As difficult as it might be, allow the tears to flow and share your experience with your friends and family. Instead of judging yourself harshly for your feelings, wash yourself in compassion for finding the strength to move through your pain.
When you break up, you feel like you want to blame everyone for causing your heartache. This includes not just your ex, but also their parents, your parents, their friends, your friends, and everyone in between. The only way to stop blaming others is to forgive them. No matter how grave the offense or how unacceptable their behavior, your healing starts when you let go of the gripe.
Yes, it was unfair; yes, it was unjust; and yes, they did you wrong. Forgive people, because they, like us, have many imperfections. They know not what they do. We let go of self-pity and resentments by being more grateful. Not only be thankful to your ex and the relationship you shared, but start living a life filled with gratefulness.
Appreciate the kind gesture, the words of encouragement, and the favorable circumstances that unfold in your life. Making a small gratitude list as you start or end the day can help you move from focusing on resentments to focusing on thankfulness. Once again, transform bitterness toward others to gratefulness that others have found love in their lives. If others have found love, let that be a message of hope and possibility for you. We are each on our own journeys to better understanding ourselves and loving better.
The way to be happy in and out of relationships is to let go of expectations and conditions. Be open to meeting new people, be open to being vulnerable, and be open to falling in love again.
Set the intention for love to enter again. I know the feeling well. Seek to be your most honest self. Being vulnerable means being honest about your shortcomings and sharing your feelings. You want to tell the same sad story repeatedly to friends—a love gone wrong, a love soured, a love that fell apart.
There are many perspectives and stories in every relationship. Are you holding onto a story of resentment and bitterness? Are you willing to see a different story? A different perspective? How is fear holding you back? Is it keeping you stuck from living the life you want or the love you desire?
Call fear out for what it is. What is the worst that can happen if this fear came true? How likely is it that this fear will come true?
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